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Robbed by the boy scouts
October 2, 2017 at 12:53 pm 0
I think I was robbed by the Boy Scouts this weekend. Not literally, well maybe literally. I love supporting all the kids. My daughter is a Girl Scout and I am always hoping that people will support her and buy those delicious Thin mints! But let's be honest, the price is half way decent for a box of cookies. Yes, some you don't get much for $4 but that is no different then a bag of chips that is all air. Well, this weekend we were leaving church and all of Addison's friends from her class were out there in their Boy Scout uniforms selling popcorn. Normally my husband buys the microwave ones from a friend at work but they had bags of popcorn too. So Addi looks at me and says "mom can we buy something". Of course, let's grab a bag of this White Cheddar popcorn. I go up to pay for the bag, hand the dad a $20 and he says it's $15. What the @$##@% !!!!! FIFTEEN DOLLARS for this bag of popcorn. Of course, I just bought the bag and left. But really I get mad when I pay $3.89 for my favorite Boom Chick a Pop but this is outrageous. What badge did that kid just earn.... how to swindle a mom.
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What the hell happened to gym class???
December 2, 2016 at 10:23 am 0
My oldest daughter started High School this year. Yes, devastating to say the least. As Bryan and I went to Back to school night and listened to all the teachers give their little 10 minute chat about their expectations of the kids we only walked away from one class that we were kind of laughing and thinking lord help Emma. That class was gym. So a little bit about Emma, she is an awesome kid. God really gave me a good one there. She has a heart of gold, always willing to help, crafty, creative, loves to cook and take pictures. So based on that list the one thing we are missing is athletic. Now I am not saying she is a hot mess because she is not BUT she will never say "oh mom going to go outside and play soccer". Now even though the teacher was listing all these things they were doing in class and how they would have to try all positions, etc I still heard as long as they get dressed and participate they will be fine. So to me Emma could handle that. She would never not get dressed or not participate so I really thought she will be fine. My biggest concern were the skills test. Let's face it, she got my gene and is not a runner. I was athletic but I never have and never will be a runner. I played field hockey for years, tennis, go to the gym but running not my thing. So we gave her some little advice and told her as long as you try you will be fine. Well let me tell you I was beyond floored every time I would see her gym teacher post her daily grade and she would get an 80. At first I thought well maybe she isn't participating because she doesn't really know anybody at school. But no she said she was trying. Then the teacher would comment skills or fitness. Honestly WTF... skills... you have to be kidding me. So you are going to fault my kid because she doesn't have flag football skills???? WTF is all I could say. I hate that we live in a society in which there is so much pressure to be some sort of star athlete. And when somebody is not a star athlete or participates in an athletic sport they are just not trying and are lazy. The one thing I can say is this. I could care less if Emma is an athlete. She is an exemplorary person. She is a role model to many. She has done more community service in her lifetime then most adults have done. God made us all different for a reason. So no I do not care that her teacher feels that she doesn't have skills. I do care that she tries and she puts her best effort in it. I wouldn't defend her if she wasn't trying. BUT most of all I do care that she is being faulted for her athleticism (or lack thereof) and it will impact her overall grade point average. To me that is just plain B.S. I will conclude by saying this. Emma ended up with a 94 for the semester which we were all very happy with. It appears she had a real knack for Kan Jam!!!
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Enjoying my alternative work arrangements…..
August 23, 2016 at 9:47 pm 0
Not often do I reap the benefits of working from home like people think I should. As discussed in earlier blogs many people misconceive work from home as stay home and do anything... Very different. Quite often I feel like I don't get to really enjoy the true benefits of an alternative work arrangement. Yes, I do get to wear my pajamas and I do use my lunch hour to pick up my kids from school but I often just sit at my desk all day (and night) and don't switch up my location besides a day in the office here and there. Most days I am so busy and the desire to have my laptop plugged into my big screens are almost a must. There are only a few weeks each quarter that I can truly try to take advantage of the flexibility and change up the scenery. To be honest, on most of those weeks I would rather still be at my desk. Today is a rare day that I said "Yes, let's go" to the kids. My older daughter has a passion for photography. She loves to take pictures and is always trying to capture that great shot. Lucky for her, my 2nd daughter will pose in a split second. So today they came flying down the stairs and I could see a plan in mind. They wanted to go to the park where they take tennis lessons and have a photo shoot. It is a gorgeous day out, not too hot, not humid and an hour at the park sounds nice. So after lots of primping and getting ready we headed out. I found a nice bench by their destination, opened the laptop and refreshingly worked and got some fresh air. It is amazing how your attitude and thoughts on work change when you can enjoy all of gods creations around you! Here are some pictures that Emma took today.... IMG_3309 IMG_3316 IMG_3368 IMG_3456
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Back to school deals???
August 10, 2016 at 12:19 am 0
What are your favorite back to school deals so far?? I have been avoiding the back to school rush of shopping but the reality is .... I better get myself motivated! I have picked up a few things that were great deals and no I am not talking about pencils or index cards. I mean all the OTHER stuff that you end up needing. So far this is what I found: Skip Hop "Animal Zoo" Thermos was 10.80 on Amazon. So if your kids like to bring something warm to school in their lunch box and they aren't picky what animal is on the insulated jar than this is a great deal. I ordered the Owl and my kids will happily bring their mac and cheese to school! https://www.amazon.com/Skip-Hop-Zoo-Insulated-Food/dp/B00LMV9H5U/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1470802048&sr=8-1-fkmr0&keywords=skip+hop+animal+zoo+thermos My other deal was a Zulily find - I got the larger Clean Canteen insulated bottles for about $10. That is a great deal. If you ever look at the really nice bottles that don't sweat, these are them and typically they are close to $30. So this was a great deal and my kids will happily have cold water all day. Vera Bradley Bookbags - If you have older girls than you know the need for Vera Bradley. Last week they had the birthday sale with 25% off your purchase. Of course one of the girls picked a pattern on sale so I got a double bonus on that one, and the other one picked a new pattern. Overall, great deals! Right now they have some good deals as well on sale items. So check it out. There are still some really cute patterns. What good deals have you found?? I would love to hear all about it!
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Family Dinner…..or not – hold your judgement
April 28, 2016 at 10:56 pm 0
It is funny how one Facebook post can send you in a tizzy. Typically I just ignore things that I don't agree with. I am totally open to everyone having their own opinions and ideas, but did you ever read something and it just made you crazy. It ignited a fire and you just couldn't stop thinking about. In reality, it isn't throwing you over the edge or anything but boy did it annoy you. And then you wonder if your annoyed because you feel guilty or if your annoyed because of the judgement that someone is placing on you because you fall out of the norm? A friend of mine, who often is very judgmental of people but I don't think she means it the way it comes across, recently shared this picture & saying and made the comment that every family should be doing this. dinner So I know you are looking at this and thinking that many families believe this. And don't get me wrong the concept of it sounds really nice and looking at the saying I just giggled initially. Of course I posted a little comment that said something like "I wish this could happen but during the week it is very rare". And that comment is true. My husband commutes over an hour each day and works in the finance field. If he makes it home by 7:30 it's a good day. I have 3 active daughters that have busy schedules. It is rare during the week that we all get to sit and eat at the same time. It is more like shifts during the week. I do try to get the girls to eat together on the nights that they can but some nights it just doesn't happen. Bryan and I also eat in shifts depending on who we are shuttling where. And I know, eeeek, I sometimes don't even eat dinner. Yup, maybe a yogurt on the go and a handful of crackers. It works! We do try to all eat together on Sunday which is nice but I don't walk away from our Sunday dinner and think OMG I am missing so much of my family because we don't eat dinner together every night. It wasn't the picture or what it said or the lack of my family doing it, It was the comments that followed the post that just made me crazy. And days later if I thought about it or thought about writing this post it would fire me up more! I know this sounds funny. There were quite a few people that had the same reaction I did. But then there was the person who made the post that basically judged all these people saying " I would love to but we have the kids sports" or "my husband works the 3rd shift and can't eat with us". The replies from the poster and a few other people saying that you should leave your job in order to get home every night and do this. Or that you should make sure everyone is home and that there is really no excuse not too. She went on saying I work full time and my kids have activities but I make them a priority. I think that is what threw me over the edge. It isn't that we don't make our kids a priority. It is a priority that we work and put a roof over their head and food on the table. Not all jobs, especially in the finance field, can you just get up and leave at 5 pm. It just doesn't happen, it's the reality. It doesn't mean that my husband doesn't love us or isn't making us a priority, it means he is doing his job to provide for us. When we can't all sit and eat dinner because one daughter has play practice and the other leaves right when that one gets home to make it to her dance practice it doesn't mean anything more than we are a busy, active family! It doesn't mean that we are not making our family a priority. In the perfect world we all get home at 5:30 make a big balanced meal and then have activities later but I don't know many families that can do that unless their kids are toddlers. Our schedule is crazy and when I say crazy I mean it. It takes a big, block, color coded schedule to keep me organized. Oh and let's not forget that in between all of this I work a full time job that is very demanding. The only saving grace is that I get to do it out of my home office. In order to keep up with all the schedules I sacrifice my time and end up working until 2 -3 in the morning so I can make it work. Just another way of making my family a priority. I think what was missed in this picture and all the judging comments is this...make time to spend with your family as a whole family. In 1970, that was done at the dinner table. In 2016, well that is done in different places, different times and different ways. For our family it might be different week to week. The times I connect best with the girls is when we are in the car. When I pick them up from school we have about a 25 minute ride home. We do a round robin and everyone discusses their day, how things are going, drama, etc. Normally every Saturday we go to church and then go to dinner as a family. It doesn't always happen, as one kid might have a party or something else to do but when we can we do it. My husband and I take time to spend with each of the kids differently. During the summer, every weekend they can he takes one of the girls to the car races. They both love it and then I take the other two girls and we do our thing. I recently was reading another blog (Money Saving Mom) and she wrote about this pressure on dinner time and how it was just so unrealistic in her family. I think that made me calm down a little and really think about it. Here is someone who homeschools and is not caught up in the crazy society all the time and even she felt that dinner time didn't work for her family. Instead they decided that breakfast would be their connection time as a family. What I know is this. My family and kids are my priority ALWAYS. There are times that maybe other things get in the way but at the end of the day, we are a family, we talk, we laugh and we cry together. We are solid through and through. So judge me all you want because I don't have dinner every night at 6 pm on the table where we all sit down together because you know what I am okay with that.
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The Struggle is Real……..
March 5, 2016 at 11:06 pm 0
BoomChickAPop I have to say I am addicted! I just love this overpriced, low calorie cheddar popcorn. It is my go to all the time. Anyone with me here???
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When did I become an extroverted introvert???
February 15, 2016 at 11:47 am 0
introvertextrovert If you ask most people they will say I am a very extroverted person. I even took a test recently and clear as day tested as an extrovert. How come I feel like an introvert lately??? Is working from home converting me. I used to love going out, loved working in the office, talking on the phone. Now I am completely content staying in and not talking to anyone. It could be because my life is so crazy on most given days that when I do finally get a break I don't want to leave me house. What I find surprising is that I work from home and you would think the complete opposite. I remember when I worked in an office, I used to long to be home and just couldn't wait to get off of work, head home and put my PJ's on. That completely made sense. But now working from home, sitting in my office, hours on end you would think I would be running for the door any time I could. Instead the thought of going out at night, having to put something more than yoga pants or a pair of jeans on feels like such work! OMG could I be converting to an introvert?? Is it working from home? Is it because I am 40? Is it because I am in a friend funk?
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Consignment Time!
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Consignment Time!
March 13, 2015 at 11:18 am 0
It's Consignment Time! Every year a couple times a year there is a really large consignment sale in our area. It's called Best Dress for Less and honestly it is the most organized, smooth running operation I have ever seen! I hate to say but I probably should admit that I am a clothes snob. Never really thought of buying clothes at a consignment sale for my kids. The girls always have nice clothes on and I definitely overspend on them! What can I say I have 3 girls and I always wanted them to look cute. It was easier to splurge when I had one kid, then I added a second a couple years later and hey they had to match. 5 years later along came another girl. Needless to say there is a lot of girls clothes in this house!! I don't always do a lot of shopping at the sale because clearly I need NO more clothes in this house. My girls are not rough and tough so I typically move clothes from one closet to the next. BUT I recently started consigning at the sale and realized I probably was missing out on some great deals on great clothes. I literally just sat and organized stacks of clothes with tags still on them. All from Gymboree, Janie and Jack and other nice stores. This will be the 5th sale I am dropping items off for. At first it seems like a lot of work to get it all organized. Clothes have to be secured on a certain type of hanger and tagged on certain type of paper but honestly once I knew what I was doing it is no big deal and that is why the sale is so organized! I have to say if you are in need of clothes, toys, and all things kids check it out!! You won't be disappointed. I am definitely going to stop by and browse the selection! But more importantly and what my next couple of post will be about is it is an easy way to make money on things you already have and need to get rid of. My house is bursting at the seams! If it were up to my husband he would throw it all into bags and drop it off at the dumpster. But not me!! I look at these things and think ugh we spent so much money on that I hate to give it away and now with yard sale sites on Facebook and consignment sales, I look at it and see $$$. I used to sell the girls clothes on ebay all the time. I felt like even if I made a little bit of money then I could put it towards new clothes for the next season. A lot of their stuff is in such good shape! What I found with the consignment sale is it is an easy way to quickly get rid of a good amount of stuff and make a little money. The best part is that you have a couple of options of what to do with the stuff that doesn't sell. The first thing is on the last day of the sale they discount items. So if you want you check off discount and you might have better luck because a lot of people wait for that day and go and stock up! Then at the end if you still have items left there is a box you check if you want to donate. Anything that you want to donate, the sale loads into a large truck and donates the item. They have a pretty cool internet based system that you can track what you sold, what you made and even print a donation slip for your taxes. So at the end of the day it is a good chance to make some extra cash and get rid of items all at the same time. For the first two sales that I participated in I made over $200! Not bad! This time I am determined to get as many items as I can ready to go into the sale! With the girls birthdays around the corner that should cover at least one of their high priced never ending items on their list! For more info on the sale check out their website: http://www.bestdressedsale.com/ Look out for my future blogs for more ways to make a little extra money with little to no extra work :)
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Girls Night Out!
February 28, 2015 at 1:30 pm 1
I don't know why but I am so excited to be going out with some of my college sorority sisters tonight. All week long I have been just excited, almost giddy to get to go out. Is it because I never go out without my kids??? Am I really that lame! And part of the answer is yes but when I sit and think about it I realize that there is so much more. As all of us have moved around, got married, got divorced, had kids, careers and everything else we just NEVER get to see each other. The one thing I love about facebook is that I feel like I know what is going on in their lives and I get to see them. If it wasn't for facebook would I have lost all contact? Maybe and maybe not. But I think the real reason that I need this night out is because these girls are not only great friends who at any minute I know I could call them and they would be there for me, they are my sisters. As my family has grown I have definitely made some good friends along the way. Mostly other moms who had kids the same age, or my girls best friends parents etc. I have formed some good relationships with my "new" friends and some relationships that really I question why I am their friends. But I find that I might hold back a little bit or not necessarily tell them everything that is going on in my lives. I don't feel like I can have those bottom of the belly laughs or the good cry. They aren't all the first people I think about calling when I have a crisis. They are friends but they are not like my sisters. Living with 40 girls was always interesting and there was always some sort of drama. But I feel like I grew up with my sorority sisters. They were my roots, my foundations. They celebrated in the good times and were there in the bad times. I know that I may not see them everyday and guiltily some of them live so close to me but no matter what we are there for each other. So tonight may not happen all the time but it is what my heart and soul needs. And fingers crossed it will be the first of many more nights out with "Xi" Best sisters and friends!
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Remote Working a.k.a. working from home
February 7, 2015 at 4:03 pm 0
When I say to people I work from home I get all kinds of replies but it almost always starts with "Oh that is so nice, you are so lucky, I would do ANYTHING to work from home". Then as you carry on with the conversation it normally always leaves me with the just bite your tongue feeling because you don't want to go postal on the person who suddenly has made you feel like you have a life of eating bonbons while sitting on the couch all day doing nothing. So for my next few blogs I am going to chat about Remote Working - the pros, the cons, the misconceptions and everything else that goes with it. So first lets start with this. I have been working from home for probably about the last 12 years. For 7 years i worked a few days in the office and a few days at home. Then five years ago I started working 100% from home. Let's clear up the other item of when I say working from home, I mean i have a legitimate job with a company, make a salary and have a career. I do not discount one bit the stay at home mom and will say that is just as much of working from home as you get. Taking care of house and kids is totally a full time job. I on top of that full time job work another job for a great company. I manage a team of about 16 people in the US and another 50 in India. Based on that I have some experience on the whole remote working thing. I will also say these are my opinions, so take them or leave them. Remote working is not easy. It takes a special kind of person to do it. While everyone says they would love to work from home, the reality is that it is not that easy. When i hire for my team I really have to think about the people I hire. They can be great people, great workers, smart as hell but that has nothing to do with the actual successfulness of working in your home. Working from home is not like this blog where i can set the times i work and just show up when i want. There is a total accountability to having a job in which you are required to be working during certain hours. Many people have the attitude of as long as I get my job done it doesn't matter when i work. And to be honest that is true for many professions but not mine. Our company has core hours in which everyone should be working. The rest of your hours get tacked on at the beginning of the core or the end. Now i do give a slight flexibility with my team but overall I expect to see my team on and working during the day. We have clients and demands from them that have to be met. Many ask how i know when my team is working... this is 2015 do i need to say more? But if you have to know, I rely heavily on our instant messenger system. I can see when everyone is actively working. I have logs of projects completed, when they were completed, how long it took, etc. And then there is the age old IT department that can tell me when everyone was working and what they were doing. So loop this back to the first misconception of sitting back watching tv all day. The reality is that we have a job to do. It needs to be done when it is expected and someone can see what you were doing all day. So no we aren't kicking back doing nothing. My other favorite thing is the idea that because I am working at home I can do my laundry, make dinner, clean the house. I have to say this is a big one. The reality - well come to my house at any point and I will prove this wrong. My house doesn't get cleaned during the week. I clean up at night, just like every other working family. I do my laundry at night and I NEVER am prepared for dinner. At 5 o'clock on most nights I am still sitting at my desk trying to figure out what in the hell I am going to make the kids for dinner. I am rushing around at night to get everyone to where they need to be on time and my house is still dirty! To be honest, my house was a hell of a lot cleaner when i worked outside of the house but that was because we were never home. I used to work, pick up kids, throw down dinner, run out to activities, shower, bed. There was no time for the kids to destroy the house! One of the biggest misconceptions is that my job must be really easy or is not really important if I can work from home. I am not going to elaborate too much on this one because honestly this whole topic will be it's on blog post. I often want to scream out why is your job more valued or important than my job because my desk is not sitting in an office so you can sit and stare at me. I look at my team and know this concept is just complete and utter BS. First off i run a whole team, doesn't that count as being kind of important, maybe not but someone has to do it :) Then there is the fact that my team is one of biggest revenue earning departments of our company. The work we do counts for something, well it counts for a lot and that a lot pays a good amount of salaries and impacts the bottom line in a big way. The last one i will talk about today is that i have it so easy because i don't have to go anywhere. And hey, i won't say it isn't nice not to have to commute to work everyday. Been there, done that, sat in traffic - I've done it. It sucks but you know what, all it did was add more hours to my work day. While most people are commuting i am still working. To be honest, i won't complain much about this. My husband has a long commute every day and i know it sucks. I love not having to commute to work. Unfortunately, I still commute my kids to school every day and back but hey that is a whole other story. Make sure you come back to read the next blog post of my remote working series. I will talk some more about the pros, the cons... and the funny moments of working from home.
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