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February 2016

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Epic Fail of a mom…..
February 21, 2016 at 11:59 am 0
keep-calm-2 I will openly admit that on many accounts I am an epic fail of a mom in many peoples eyes....... and you know what I completely embrace it because you know what my kids are healthy, happy and loving life. There are many stages of life that I know I have failed and I use that term loosely because maybe one will see it as a fail where I see it as what got me by. Some examples of the epic fails.... 1. Bedtime - I will openly be the first to admit and even laugh my ass off when I think about bedtimes for my kids throughout their lives. So yes against every book out there that said to just put your baby in the crib I did not. I rocked everyone of my babies to sleep until I couldn't hold them anymore. And you know what I loved every minute of it!! Then I laid down in their beds with them. I even sat equidistant in the hallway between the two girls rooms so they could see me and I could see the tv in my room. Yes.. I know I am crazy. All of my kids have randomly slept in my bed. My middle daughter came into our bed every night for years. And you know what, I let her. GASP...lol. But you know what, when both you and your spouse have to get up and work the next day and you know that sweet little child will go right to sleep if she is in your bed... well girl get on in and let me get right back to sleep too. Now my girls go between each others room and sleep together and some nights they all sleep in their own beds. And you know the other fail, they go to bed late. What can I say I have night owls.. Partly this was our doing. When they were little we never put them to bed at 7 pm. That was just plain crazy to us. By the time we all got home from school, work, had dinner it was already 7. I wanted to spend time with the kids. So they always went up to bed around 8:30 - 9pm. To this day they all go to their rooms at 9, the older two watch tv until they doze off ( I know I know.. double GASP - they have TV's in their rooms!!). My little one she normally lays in her bed with her ipad until she dozes off. And guess what at age 13, 11 and 7 I still tuck them all in and snuggle in their beds every night. Some nights I love it and others it is a total inconvenience if I am honest but I wouldn't change it. So yes, this mom is an EPIC Fail when it comes to bed time routines :) 2. Dinner - guess what I suck at dinner. No big secret. My kids suck at eating or being willing to try new things. Dinner just plain sucks at my house. Nobody eats the same thing. And yes I have tried to make everyone eat the same thing whether they liked it or not. You know where that got me, My oldest threw up all over the table. In all fairness she said just looking at the food made her sick. And after 45 minutes of a stare down she still won by trying to shove the food in her mouth and throwing it all up all over the place. Years later we are just so busy every night. I try to make one base that everyone eats and then modify for each kid. My youngest basically doesn't eat anything except salad. I shouldn't complain but would love for her to venture out a little bit. The older two are night and day. Emma likes to eat different things but Laura is a nightmare. So the thought of making dinner at night just makes me want to cringe. Then I make my husband something too which is normally completely different than the kids and hours later. And in between all this craziness I am shuttling kids places. During the week dinner is just crazy. If I didn't work full time maybe it would be different but oh well!! Epic FAIL! 3. Lately, I have been so last minute. I used to plan for every event months upon months ahead but now I normally pull things together last minute but you know what they always turn out. So maybe I missed a couple of details here and there but really it all works out. 4. We often don't say no to our kids and I don't mean about the big things. They get plenty of No's thrown at them. But if we can make it work we do. So yes on Friday I drove about 130 miles between taking them to school and all the activities. I was in my car hours upon hours getting them every place. And then I came home and did some more work and two loads of laundry. People think we are crazy but oh well. The list can go on and on but you know what I am okay with all of the above. My kids are all good kids, well they have their moments, but overall they are not snotty or bratty they are typical kids. And as per my blog name my life is chaotic but we sprinkle a little glitter and get it all done and on most days we are all smiling.
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When did I become an extroverted introvert???
February 15, 2016 at 11:47 am 0
introvertextrovert If you ask most people they will say I am a very extroverted person. I even took a test recently and clear as day tested as an extrovert. How come I feel like an introvert lately??? Is working from home converting me. I used to love going out, loved working in the office, talking on the phone. Now I am completely content staying in and not talking to anyone. It could be because my life is so crazy on most given days that when I do finally get a break I don't want to leave me house. What I find surprising is that I work from home and you would think the complete opposite. I remember when I worked in an office, I used to long to be home and just couldn't wait to get off of work, head home and put my PJ's on. That completely made sense. But now working from home, sitting in my office, hours on end you would think I would be running for the door any time I could. Instead the thought of going out at night, having to put something more than yoga pants or a pair of jeans on feels like such work! OMG could I be converting to an introvert?? Is it working from home? Is it because I am 40? Is it because I am in a friend funk?
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The 7 Year Friend Cycle………….
February 13, 2016 at 11:28 am 0
sparkle Have you ever heard of the 7 year friend cycle?? I remember once when I was in my 20's an "older" co-worker told me about the 7 year friend cycle. I thought she was crazy. I still was enjoying life, having a great time. I was in contact with my besties from High School. I was surrounded by my sorority sisters and meeting new friends at work. Life was so good. I thought this "older" 35 year old was nuts. Her theory was that every 7 years you will have an upheaval of your friends. You will learn that the friends you thought were the best friends ever quickly change and you pull apart. She told me the ones you thought you would grow old with will be the first to go. And while you might remain acquantances they are not your go to person. I really thought maybe her friends just aren't that solid or maybe since she had 2 kids she just didn't make time for her friends. She did say that there will be your core friends who will last an eternity but they are often the ones who you don't talk to everyday. So I guess that left me with hope but I really did think she was crazy. All I can say is lady you are so right. I definitely have gone through this a few times and I am watching my girls go through it too. I think what stinks is how hurtful, sad and dreadful the change is. The worst part is that you really have no clue why things changed. 2015 was a shitty year in the friends spectrum. Well really 2014/2015. First off, I definitely have found that with 3 kids, 2 working parents, multiple schedules to manage, activities, birthday parties, well the list goes on and the bottom line is life leaves you minimal time to just hang with friends. All those high school friends / college friends are just as busy. They are running their busy families and honestly if it weren't for facebook I am not sure if I would ever get to talk to them. Now your friends are really the people you work with and parents of your kids friends. And this is all good. They are the people who you have things in common with at this point in your life! best friends... The one thing that has really hit me, and I guess I am really seeing it more and more as I get older and the girls get older, is that your friends now just aren't the same. I don't feel that super tight connection nearly with anyone anymore. My guard is always up thinking when will this person who is great and I like hanging out with leave my circle of friends. In the last couple of years, being a friend was so testing for me. I am one of those people that believes in everyone. I go above and beyond and honestly as I am told continually by my husband and a couple of friends I just let people walk all over me. It is just who I am. I try to make everyone happy even if it is at the expense of my own being. I have always been that way. I try to make sure I help out even when it doesn't work for me or puts a strain on my life, and even though I know that that friend would never do the same for me. I honestly do know that they are using me to their advantage continually. The last 7 years my scope of friends have been this way. I have often questioned if they were my friends or I was a friend of convenience for them. Well the true colors continue to show. Friends that you have bent oven backwards just disappeared and why, who knows. My tight knit group of friends has dismantled. The people who you have bent over backwards for in the last 7 years have stomped on you and or just walked out with no departing words. Some you know why they left your circle, they were never really your friends to begin with, you were convenient to them, you were their puppet and when you tried to be their friend and say what they needed to hear, poof gone. And honestly it was all good. Who wants to be a puppet. It is the ones afterwards that disappear that you don't get. They run away and you are stuck just wondering why. I can ramble on and on for hours on my 7 year upheaval but what I have really come to terms with is that I have to be the friend that I am and while people come in an out of your lives, the memories of the times that are good should be good. I may not trust like I used to. I may keep a wall up at all times but it shouldn't prevent me from moving forward. I have to let people in, I have to get my spunk back. And while the door opens, maybe this new chapter will only last another 7 years, but I have to make it count. And I am reminded that deep down in the nooks of our being there are friends out there you have had your whole life that maybe you talk to every 2 years but when you do you are reminded what a real friend is. So I do thank one of my oldest besties, Mandy, who I never see and very rarely talk to but she helped remind me why I was always known as Nice Nancy. She helped remind me that the simplest, purest friendships are not the ones that take all the effort. They are the ones in your heart that you don't have to actively pursue, maintain and bend over backwards for. We had maybe a 5 minute facebook chat and it was not work. It was like good ole days. It reminded me of driving around in our cars, laughing and singing, spying on sweet cheeks (her boyfriend in high school). It reminded me that friendships should be easy. It reminded me that there are people who are genuine. And one day when Mandy and I, and a few others, don't have kids to run around, and jobs to keep us busy, we will get to go to dinner and we will have a girls trip and we will do all the things we dreamed of. There are good friends out there and sometimes a small reminder is all you need to open up your mind again. talking
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I’m still here
February 10, 2016 at 12:07 am 0
download Yes - it has been quite some time since I have actually posted anything! Life has gotten in the way! The daily grind of work, kids, house, and all that jazz just is consuming every waking moment. BUT I have been writing just not posting anything. I have a lot of half done articles with thoughts and comments that just need to be brought to fruition! So hopefully in the weeks to come I will be posting all those random thoughts. For today - let's talk books! Now that my slower time is here from work I have to get back into the routine of reading. I used to read every day at the gym, but now I have a gym partner and we have a meeting every morning! (No complaints on that to my gym partner :) ) I am almost done with my book and would love some good suggestions. I love light reading. My favorite author is Elin Hildebrand. Any thoughts? What are your favorite books?
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