November 23, 2015 at 10:18 am
Having teens/pre-teens has really been such a learning experience! Yes I was a teenager once and have tons of my own life experiences but really the kids don't want to hear that "all this will pass". And let's be honest we did not have the technology and social media drama that exists for our children today. I have two girls that are completely different in their friend experiences and they both have their own struggles.
Child 1 - My oldest daughter is a sweet soul. She sees good in just about everything and very rarely overthinks things or lets silly things get to her. She rolls with the punches and just keeps moving. I honestly think that I get more upset than her over situations. She is pretty quiet and takes her time to make a group of friends. I have watched her slowly dwindle down with her early child friendships, which breaks my heart a little, but have watched her build new friendships. A few years ago, we had to switch schools, and this was really hard. She left a school in which she knew every single person to go to a much bigger school. Coming into the school late into the game it was a slow transition to building a group of friends. Lately I have watched her flourish. No longer does she want to sit home with mom, but she is going out and just having a great time. I love seeing this. She has very little drama in her life because she lays low. She has a good group of friends and they could care less about the popular girls. But now my mind can't stop pondering the next move to High School in which she will be starting all over again. New people, new school.... sigh. It is a challenge but one we will tackle one day at a time.
Child 2 - Oh sweet Jesus - child 2. This girl is like a magnet to drama! She is spunky, charismatic and sensitive. I would love to think that she is always nice but I am sure she has her moments. She definitely has mood swings. There is always drama in her group of friends. This one said this or did that. It just never ends! There is always one person in the group that just eggs her on and creates the drama and literally at least once a week I get the tears about how that person was mean and yet she still goes back for more and then the next day they are "BAEs" again. Some days I would really love to say to her, you know what she can be a bitch and you just have to accept it and learn to deal with it or move on. And I remind myself that rightfully so I am sure that moms are saying the same about my girl. No matter how much I tried to guide her on the rocky road of friendships it never feels like enough. This school year there is far less drama than last but boy oh boy there is still drama. And then trying to control what they do and say on their various social media accounts. OMG. Who would of thought if you don't have a certain letter or emoji in your instragram profile that it could be the end of the world. It truly is exhausting. I try to stay on top of it all and emerge myself into their lives just so I know what is going on.
Do you have teens/tweens?? What are your biggest struggles?
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